Monday, August 25, 2008

Thank you for reminding me to blog =)

on this not so special day, really a day like many others... well really a day like almost all other work days where I don't have plans after work (doesn't happen often) I am catching up on stuff I haven't been able to blog about in a bit.

Reciprocation is something that I have been working on with a couple people. How I do this one is that I will emotionally respond in a similar way to what the person is doing, i.e. if they are being snooty, I am snooty to them. If they are being condescending, I am returning that sentiment. If they are being kind and loving, I am being kind and loving. I have learned that in most of the cases people really don't like the way that they act... well they really don't like the way that I act when I am reciprocating, but this is a two way street and I am very careful to make sure that I reciprocate the love with a little extra when I can. What started this interesting little experiment is that I was really getting annoyed with how a few of the people I know were treating me and others around them, (I have to admit it was a argh revenge kind of move but it is kinda working) I have kept this up for the most part of about a month, but I would like to hear a little input on wither I should continue the experiment or wither I should stop while I am ahead.
The pro's and con's:
Pro's
most of the time when I start to reciprocate the negative emotional input that I am getting it doesn't last long because they don't like the responses and they move on quick.
it doesn't always feel rite or good but in a way it feels like justice, like they are getting what they give so it should be ok.
when I get to reciprocate love (and I do get that chance often) it feels awesome because it is coming from both directions and it seems to overflow onto others around us.
and the last pro I can think of rite now is that I hope by me doing this the recipient of this act may notice what I am doing and may catch on to how they are behaving so that they can at least be aware of what is going on Evan if they don't want to change it.
Con's
it doesn't always feel rite or good
some times I feel like I am lowering my self to a level where I don't want to be that kind of person and most people that know me, know that I am not that kind of person.
and the last con I can think to write about now is that no matter how much I hope that they will notice what I am doing and be able to decide wither they want to continue behaving that way or not I honestly think that a majority of the time they just think I am being a jerk or just having a bad day.

what do you think let me know.

on to sparky news
for my loving and patient older bro, I have some ballast's (the things you need to get the lights working again) and I can install them we need to set up a time. [you may need different lights for the new ones] they don't make the old ones that you have in your place any more. and I love you man! I miss you guys so I think I will take you up on that offer to stop by any time.

for my sis whom I adore, yo gorgeous it was fun last night dropping by and playing games and stuff with your hubby, tell him thank you! and tell tom and jake Thanks too. have fun you guys and let me know when I get to run off with you to go get some coco.

for my little bro, Dude you rock I love you lots and I will see ya again soon, maby I can run off with you and your wife some time to go see a movie or to dinner.

for every one else, there is a good chance that I love you too and I may or may not miss you quite as much depending on when I last saw you but I always say if you ever need something or if you ever just want to hang out give me a call, if I ain't busy I will be there and we'll have some fun.

3 comments:

Ki said...

I'm semi-firmly of the opinion that there's enough negativity in the world. I've seen people change on a dime when you keep being sweet and helpful--I guess they don't want to look bad.

On the other hand, for the professional not-nice, if you have enough humor you can say in a sweet voice just what butts they're being.

Scuse--gotta go rescue stuff

Anonymous said...

Alive! My brother has life. . .ah ha ha ha haaa!(lightning followed by a clap of thunder) Glad to here from you bro. I miss you man. I love you... My vote is to be yourself and always give the love.

Flake said...

Screw the system, fight the machine!! the whole world is negative, everyone has issues. So stick it to em - be the best damn person you can be.

Positive rules. And this is from the normally chaotic scary fungles worshipper.

We have our ways of survival.